Hey guys I want to be quick and Ik your in the outside looking in especially given these small amount of details but I have been in a relationship for 2 years but we have known eachother 4 years. We don’t live together bc of personal things but nevertheless we always make time for eachother or alternate houses. Lately they don’t want to come over anymore, claims it’s an inconvenience even tho I used to inconvenience myself for them. They claim they’re work schedule doesn’t allow them too but when I had work at 5am I still stayed over his house when he got off of work at 1am now his schedule is changing thank goodness I thought to myself bc he’d be going to work in the am like myself but now he’s claiming he definitely won’t be over bc he has to get up early like huh I got up early asf at yours but you can’t get up early at mine? Also he claims I’m such the perfect gf but lately we been going back and forth bickering about the smallest things and now he’s showing his true colors. For example: currently we are into it about his bday gift. His bday coming up and I asked him to list 5thi gs he wanted and he said get him a ps5 or nothing at all! I told him I couldn’t afford it this year and he says to me welp you bought me a $700 gift last year why can’t you this year? And then repeats get him a ps5 or nothing at all. Like fine guess you won’t be getting anything and I’ll be the bad guy yet again. He also complains to me everyday about the $700 gift he got (it was a dog and I now under hat not everyone is ready for that responsibility but he literally asked and spoke everyday about one) but anyways he complains everyday about how he never wanted the dog, I can’t pick gifts I don’t listen etc. other examples is his views on women being in the kitchen and claims I could do more of it and that the food I cook is quick food not real soul food like his mom cooks… but the thing is he wants all of this out of a relationship but doesn’t want to be a man. Wants things to be 50/50 and complains about paying for dinners. He always wants me to drive my car and honestly I drive 85% of the time and even when it’s regarding him and his family and friends and I’ve asked for gas once or twice because I genuinely didn’t have it and I also felt he was using me and he got upset and tripped on me. But when he asks for money I have no problem. Ugh idk I can go on about things yet idk how to express it. All Ik is he constantly tells me I don’t cook like his mom, women want to be so independent but don’t want to pay for our dinner, I want to be pampered like all these gold digging females when I’ve never asked him for anything I don’t get my hair or nails done like regular females I’m literally the most low maintenance gf he could ever have..he has mad anger issues but yet I continue to stay I’m just so frustrated and realizing all the things he does and I’m at a point where I’m asking myself is it worth it. I’ve literally done a pros and cons list but they keep adding up to a tie. If that makes sense. We have good and bad times

Update: I’m reading all of your responses and deep down I already knew that and scared to admit I may be in denial because I thought it was love. And maybe I’m scared to be alone but I have to Remember who tf I am and was before him…I appreciate all of you❤️ also tonight was another deal breaker and if no one had responded to this post yet I was gonna add the fact that tonight he made a post on his Snapchat story of how a girlfriend is supposed to make her man happy And in that video things that were said was she should be more appreciative, cook, let him play the game, be less of a nagger/complaints, give him space, don’t go through his phone and when he on the game leave him alone etc.. and I swiped up saying I do all of those things excel maybe going through his phone here and there (bc he’s cheated on me in the past but I haven’t seen anything yet so either he’s stopped or got better hiding it) anyways so I swiped up and said what is it that I don’t do for him besides the phone issue and he said “I do what I can” like what does that mean so I called him genuinely wanting him to elaborate and he was blunt all he said was “he said what he said and he don’t feel like talking about it”🥺 so yeah feeling not respected and that he knows what he says to me but doesn’t care.. and it hurts..