To start out, my family is pretty average, my parents are together, I have a wonderful boyfriend and two annoying as hell brothers. But I’m my extended family it gets weird, although the point of this is to focus on my estranged cousin.

She is nearly 30, is pregnant by a man who’s wife is in prison for child abuse ( she ran a daycare) and is marrying him tomorrow morning. I have nothing bad to say about my cousin as she has always been an odd duck, but for her fiancé, I hate the man. He’s only been around for nearly a year, is about 40, and has two previous children, it’s just that he is creepy. From the first time I met him, I knew I didn’t like him, he was hitting on me for having cleavage at a young age (roughly 14/15) and wouldn’t leave me alone.

Since then every time I’ve seen him he’s asked me if I want to grapple( a form of fighting used in martial arts which involves very close contact and physical touching) because I told him that I was in martial arts so he’d leave me the fuck alone, he hasn’t, when I told him to lay off, he started poking me in the side of the stomach asking ‘how about now’. he’s gone so far as to take a photo of me while I was asleep holding my sleeping baby cousin. I’ve brought this up to my cousin and she thinks I’m lying or joking about it, but in truth, that man makes me sick. It’s gone on for over a year now, the part that makes me the most sick is at a family function over the summer, I was holding my baby cousin and he proceeded to poke me in the side, and tell me about what good childbearing hips I have, in front of my extended family, it made me nauseous, and when I asked him to leave me alone he followed me into another room to ‘continue our chat’

My boyfriend has witnessed these happenings almost every time I’ve seen the man (although my boyfriend is a smaller scrawny 18year old), and both my boyfriend and I have explained what is happening to my father (a big burly redneck man), whose only words of advice were to ‘don’t go by him’ and to ‘stop provoking him’. I don’t know what else to do, I don’t want to hurt my cousin, but if this continues, and lord knows it will, I will hurt the man she is marrying.

Please tell me I’m not over exaggerating this (as I am a 16 year old girl) and what I can do about it

Thanks and love ❤️