I am shallow? Should I change my perspective? HELP

I've been thinking about this for a while and would love your input ladies... I love reading your advice; don't be too brutal if you can, please. 😊

So my husband wants to get into an early retirement. He is going to be 45 in 2 years and he does not want to work anymore. He has significant savings that can provide for us, but certainly not at the level and lifestyle we have now.

But the most important thing with this is that a) I don't want to be married to a pensioner; this is linked to my dad who retired from the army in his 40s and my parents' marriage deteriorated. He started cheating, gambling, overall things did not go well. And at school I hated to say that my dad is retired when asked his profession.

b) my husband has a pretty powerful job. Yes, I will admit this is one of the things that attracted me to him. His success, the respect that people have for him, the doors that his job opens and the lifestyle it can provide. It is what I wanted in a husband.

Of course he has many other qualities! He is smart, has a kind heart, loves helping people, is very open to things I want to try in bed and does not judge, many things that make him attractive to me and I love him.

But I am soooooooooooo bumbed out by his burning desire to retire. I hate it. I absolutely hate this (retirement plan). I have not been saying anything when he says this plan of his to me, but friends and colleagues and everyone has been telling him, "you have small children, a young wife, maybe give it a few more years", but he wants this sooo much.

He has told me this is very important to him and he will not change his mind. But I want him to change his mind.

Is it very shallow of me the way I feel?I am so sad when I think how our life will change. 😣