I’m curious if you’re in a relationship how often do you go on dates while also having kids?

My husband and I have 3 kids. 6, 2, and newborn.

We have been on one or two dates in the last year.

We always do the same thing like go out to dinner or go for a walk. I love going for walks and would like to do it more but I also want to do other stuff like go out with friends or even a day hike/beach trip. We have plenty of people that have offered to watch our kiddos.

Our main issue is that we have zero extra money for dates.

Also, do you think the man should plan the dates sometimes? Or all the time?

I find that the mental load of life in general/ motherhood/doing all house related things is very hard on me and I’m always stressed. Having to also plan dates sucks the fun right out of it and I’m ALWAYS the one to make it happen. My husband never makes the first move. Kinda also another reason we don’t go out, because I’m seeing if he actually wants to I guess? Maybe that’s not good of me to do? I feel like if he took me to a lil trail to hike on for a hour or 2 I’d be happy for a full week just because he was the one to think of it and knew it would make me happy.

I’ve told him this before.

What kind of dates do you guys like to go on?