Let’s start this story back a bit, I moved in with my boyfriend around 4 years ago. Me and my step daughter who was 8 at the time became close pretty fast. Continued to be close for years. Then about 2 years ago we moved to a larger apartment and she was invited to move with us since she didn’t have a room at her moms house. I bought everything for her room cuz her mom kept saying she would and then didn’t. She would have have just turned 11 like a month before we moved. During the move she was helping me pack my room cuz we were close and we were going through some boxes in the back of my closet. Sentimental stuff I had brought from my moms house. She really like this one item from a family trip we took when I was little. It has sentimental value to me. I offered it to her since I was excited for her to moving in. I also gave her a handful of other items but that trinket was special to me. She took it and it’s been on her dresser ever since. Well when she moved in she did a complete 180. She started failing all her classes getting in fights at school, sneaking out, sneaking alcohol, sending inappropriate pictures, boys, ect. Her dad works long hours so it was just me and her home for a lot of things. She wouldn’t listen to me. Like would slam her door in my face and lock it if I asked her to do something. “Pick up her backpack.” “Clean up the living room” (she was home alone and the living room was clean when I left and now had several plates/bowls, stuff spilled on the couch, her blankets and clothes scattered all over the place) but don’t worry she was back to innocent when her dad got home. Was a very draining year, me and her dad were fighting constantly because he felt I should have done more to mother her, and I felt she turned into a completely different person and was being extremely rude and disrespectful to me when I hadn’t done anything to her. My boyfriend suggested his daughter move back in with her mom. He hit a wall when her behavior started spilling over to the times he was home. The next day after my boyfriend and his ex wife sat down and talked to her about the possibility of moving back with her mom. She works from home and could be around more. I worked full time and her dad worked 60+ hours a week so she was home alone a lot at our house. She wasn’t suppose to be. She was suppose to walk to grandmas who lived a blocked over but again she didn’t listen to me and never actually walked over. So the very next day after it was suggested she moved in with her mom she accused her step dad of things. Obviously my boyfriend 100% took her side as he should and they made a police report and she stayed with us. I found the timing of this odd but would explain her behavior. As we got more out of her on what exactly happened the stories didn’t line up. She’d tell me one thing but her grandma another. She would say her aunt was there and saw this or that. Her aunt would say she was there but that’s not at all what happened. Like daughter saying step dad watched in the shower but aunt, mom and siblings who were all home on the day it supposedly happened say step dad knocked, daughter yelled “I’m in the shower” and step dad walked away. I’m not saying she’s lying but it was overall an odd situation. And it legit never comes up until she’s in trouble she’ll literally tell her mom “you can’t ground me because your boyfriend did xyz” to which my boyfriend then takes her side and goes “ya we can’t ground her cuz of xyz” pitting her parents against each other. She did end up going back to her moms after getting caught sneaking out again her mom and dad agreed that moms boyfriend wouldn’t be over anymore and all the siblings back up that’s he hasn’t been there. I have over heard several conversations between my boyfriend his ex wife, he’ll take these calls in another room but from what I can hear she’s asking if it’s ok to take daughter over to step dads house. Daughter is asking to go there. Siblings also back up that daughter asks to go over to step dads house. Or like the three times he’s been over since all of this she’s suppose to stay in her moms room (he’ll come over to fix the cars or think my step son wanted something put together in the basement one time) like stay in her moms room with her mom/sisters and someone (me grandma dad) will be there to pick her up but she’ll go in the basement with him or outside in the garage to fix the cars. So again just odd all the way around. Back to the main point of this post sorry for the tangent but she hasn’t lived with us in almost a year, would I be a horrible person if I took back that trinket I gave her? It’s just been on her dresser for the last year. She didn’t take it to her moms house.