Advice? Or anything really I gotta rant š
Back story- Me and my boyfriend (Iām 13 weeks pregnant currently) have known each other since 14. We are 24 now. Him and his family used to live with my fam. We parted ways around 16 just to live life since his family had to relocate. During that time we obviously met other people I ended up have 3 kiddos with my baby dad. And he got his gf at the time pregnant In which she didnāt find out she was pregnant till 5 months pregnant and they were no longer together and I was already pregnant with his kid also by then.
The issues- in a fabulous world weād all co parent and me and bf have worked super hard to get that way with my other kids dad and itās been going fantastic!! Ex is due in a few weeks. She still wants to be with him and is using baby now as a pawn and punishing him for being with me.. she wasnāt going to keep the baby untill she found out we were dating and expecting my also. Now sheās a first time mom and heās a first time dad. So I can fully understand that ya know this is rough for her also! As she is going into this as a single mom and I try soo soo hard to see her views as I was also a single mama and it aināt easy! But sheās turned into someone so rude to him that he cries at night because heās scared he wonāt get to see his kid. Let me tell you the issues in bullet points š (now before I read these keep in mine bf is a great man, works full time he trying a second job to help with our baby and thereās. Lives in a clean apartment with 2 other gentleman who are also very clean and quiet. This is her reasoning and crazy things sheās saying so he canāt see baby)
-if he doesnāt go to every appointment with her she claims he hates that baby, and is making a replacement with me. (I do encourage he goes to these with her, but work sometimes doesnāt allow him)
-Inorder to see his kid she wants him and his fam all to get vaxed, and other medical things, she doesnāt like his family so she says that mom and gma canāt be around babyā¦. Iām not allowed around baby untill I meet her multiple times (keep in mind him and I will be living together but I respect she wants to meet me and Iām all for it but she says Iām a bad mom already because I let my bf around my kids and āwe havenāt been together longā but Iāve known him and his fam since kids and also Iām the most over protecting mom and made the measures to make sure thatās ok. But now she doesnāt like me at all and says that he should leave me.
- she wants me to take a paternity test or I canāt be around baby BUT she wonāt take oneā¦ Iām so down to take one šš I have no doubts I only have been with himš but she wonāt take one.
- NOW SHE wonāt even go to mediation Bf was going to pay for because she says itās āher rules or you wonāt see my kid or youāll only be able to visit when Iām around to bfā
-she sleeps on moms couch and says that bf living conditions are bad and heās not allowed to have kid at his placeš± but sheās finding anything to not let him see the kid. She says that I order to see the baby he has to be with her cause she still wants him. We are lost and donāt know what to do. We are young I didnāt have this issue with my kids dad we co parent semi decently. I donāt want her to struggle or anything and I wish he to be a amazing mama even single but itās hard some days for me to be nice about it becauee the things she says are so mean, even tho I know theyāre out of spite and she hasnāt met me and doesnāt know me yet. But now heās going to have to take her to court to even see his kid, she says he can be at birth (which I am 100 percent ok with) but ik sheās playing games and itās sucks and he knows also heās just scared ti say anything to her because heās scared sheāll take baby away. Which she threatens daily. But we donāt know how to do anything like this court wise like this is crazy stressful she doesnāt want him to be the dad of my kid but idek if heās the dad of her kid ššš this is some crazy stuff and I just donāt know
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