One of my closest friends of 5 years (M) is getting married this summer and has been super excited sharing the planning process with me. M and her fiancé and my bf and I are close and have gone on several trips together and hang out a few times per month. Tonight, M and I were planning her bachelorette (flights, accommodations, car rentals, budgets, etc.) for over an hour and then she asked me to help her look for bridesmaids dresses. We were looking at some options and I asked her who she was thinking of having as her bridesmaids and she bluntly named her two sisters and 2 other friends. I had assumed since she has asked for my help in planning her bachelorette, for my help in finding bridesmaids dresses, photographer recommendations, and hair and makeup, that I would likely be a bridesmaid. She didn’t even say “I wanted to include you but wasn’t able to because x y z”, it was just “this is who’s included. Now what style dress should I go with?” Budget isn’t an issue because she’s marrying into a wealthy family who is paying for the wedding.

I’m planning on bringing it up next week on our trip we’re going on and might share that I had (mistakenly?) assumed that I was included due to all the wedding planning I’ve helped with.

Anyways, was I wrong to think I would likely be included as a bridesmaid?