So I am going to be 30 soon.

This year I want my year to revolve around me. Now that may seem selfish..especially since I've got a 2yo running around..

But here's the thing. I've been with a very dominant man for the last 8 years. And I finally had enough, I felt like there was no "me" in my life, in our home and I need this to change big time. So I am standing my ground - which man says that I am deliberately trying to make this relationship fail because "If I could just to this one thing he's asking then we could just live in peace" right but he has these million "little things" that he aparantly need to live in peace and I'm done.

Like yesterday... I put the tv sound on "9" until he absolutely lost his shit 🤣 I kept asking him why I need to change it? Because I like the volume on 9. but he doesn't want it on uneven numbers. But I like the volume on 9 and he was about to leave for work.

Eventually I did end up switching it back to 10 because he was absolutely losing it.

So anyway.. I have this 1 goal this year.. I want to go to a party with a girlfriend this year. That seems feasible and shouldn't be an issue since he's got a festival planned. Which he has done several years now.. He cannot have a good reason to deny that.. because why would he be allowed to go out with a friend and I would not?

@Em

thanks Em!

Right. Leaving him is not off the table and he knows. If me being a person is a threat to our relationship, and there is no improvement in that area then I will in fact choose to start my single life. He wanted a year to improve our relationship. He - aparantly - didn't realize that he was not treating me like an equal. I'm not sure if I believe that but he's been trying.. We'll see how that goes. Until then I'm pushing my boundaries to where I want them and standing my ground and setting goals for myself. To become a full person again iso this shade of a human being I've been.

Have a WONDERFUL 2023 as well 🥳❤️