I am not really sure how to word this, or if this is even the correct group to post in (may cross post)

Without making this post too long or detailed, details not overly relevant, how do you deal with a family member who doesn’t exactly share similar views? Not really so much that particular family member themselves, but they go on to have children, and then raise their children in a way that is concerning to the rest of the family.

At one point does someone say something?

Is it ever ok to say something?

And who is the person to say something?

Some background. My uncle is married to my aunt. My aunt is the one “new” to the family, although, she has been part of the family for a long time (my uncle is only ten years older than me btw, he’s not like an “old man” lol)

My aunt is absolutely wonderful. I love her, she’s funny, she’s great. Absolutely great. I am very close to her and my uncle. My aunt is more like an older sister to me (we are close in age). We go shopping, I hang out at her house, you get it. We are very close .

However, her values and morals are a bit different than the rest of the family’s. This has my grandma very upset with how she’s raising her children. I won’t go into details, but my grandma is constantly upset and very worried about my cousins (who are very young) about how they will turn out. The issue is NOT my aunt, more my uncle. My grandma doesn’t know WHY my aunt has so much say with how the children are being raised and my uncle just seems to go along with it, when he wasn’t raised that way.

My grandma has raised her concerns to my aunt, and the conversation did not go well.

I sometimes wonder if I should. I feel like my aunt and I are SO CLOSE that she will take what I say into consideration without it being a blow out, or an argument. Like I said it’s not my aunt, she can do whatever she wants, but she has young children now.

Has anyone been in this situation before? Did you step in?

Hello, just to add some additional info into my post. A lot of people are saying that it is no one’s business, but that is really not true. My grandma raised her children (my uncle is one of them) a certain way, and that way is expected to be passed along to all the children. My mother raised me how my grandmother raised my mother. With that being said, I know some family units go their own way in some families, but in our family, grandma is the matriarch, and worked her ass off for all of us and instilled the morals and values we have today. The issue is not my aunt, it is my uncle for abandoning all family traits.