Gifted an outdated parenting book- what would you do?

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I am curious what you would do in this situation. When we were pregnant with our first child my in laws gifted us a parenting book that they read when raising my husband/their other kids. My MIL is a very sentimental person and she was clearly happy to pass down this book to us. 
The book has lots of “outdated” information. Not just that, but there are many things discussed in the book that my husband and I disagree with and are uncomfortable with. For example there is a large section about how the way parents raise their children causes them to be gay, and that you should avoid doing certain things so you don’t make your child gay. This is something we very much disagree with and the book makes me very uncomfortable (my husband too). It’s been sitting in the back of the closet and I kind of what to get rid of it. I hate clutter, and I’m really trying to get rid of unwanted and unneeded things in our house. 
Would you: throw away the book and not discuss it (and hope your in laws never ask about it)?
Or would you kindly give it back to your MIL and explain that you really appreciate the sentiment but that the book makes you uncomfortable-this way there’s no awkwardness if it comes up in the future? Plus would it be bad to throw away something that has sentimental value to my MIL? 
Just curious what you would do!

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I’d leave it in the closet, and throw it in the trash when they’re dead and gone.

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Neither. I’d probably keep it put away and if it ever does come up, say something like “yeah we read it and we appreciate you passing it on to us, but we disagree with a lot of what that book suggests.” And my e have more conversation about it afterward if they’re open to it or just leave it at that.

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I’d just keep it in a closet somewhere and forget about it.

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I'd probably either stuff it in the back of a closet in case they ask for it or throw it away. If you don't think they'll get bent out of shape about it, you could just give it back and say thanks, but no thanks.

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I'd keep it in a bin with old baby things. My teens don't seem to understand how things used to be and books like that are just great for discussion with your kids when they get older about how your generation was raised and how you worked to be better parents.  People tend to sort of glorify past generations they never experienced, so it's good to have reminders of the unpleasant reality. I can see them looking through it at 20 and being like wtf is this? And you'll be like, yup that's what your grandparents gave us to raise you. 
(Also, my parents kept newspapers and catalogs from the year I was born and it's super interesting to go look at them now)

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Set it on the shelf with my other books and have a chuckle over the ridiculousness of it when it’s found throughout the years. I’d accept it but not use it.

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I'd keep it intil you kids are at school, and pass it back to them with cute photos of your kids in it, maybe with a little note explaining your philosophy on parenting?

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I’d throw it away. She’ll literally never know you did.

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Throw away

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I’d recycle it

Gifted an outdated parenting book- what would you do?

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