Husband’s Attitude causes Arguments

Here’s the deal. Our toddler co-sleeps with dad while I’m sleeping in the other room with our infant twins. But sometimes my toddler wants to go to bed with mommy, while leaving hubby with the twins or one of them if one is already asleep. His attitude gets so bad. He huffs and puffs and says I shouldn’t take too long getting her too sleep because he can’t with the babies. He gets anxiety when they cry and he can’t soothe them. He then checks on us to see if we can switch roles and he gets so mad if it won’t work.

I confronted him that he needs to work with me as a team handling our kids instead of dumbing the load on me. He gets defensive and says he can’t handle the twins so he much rather take our toddler to bed. But sometimes she wants MOM and he should understand that her needs come before his comfort level. Or am I wrong here?

He then tells me apparently he can’t do no right by me since I complain. I don’t complain at all, it’s his attitude that makes him an arrogant asshole that I have a problem with. If he were to be more supportive instead of a miserable ass no arguments or complains would occur!

Is he so thick not to get it or am I dealing with a man-child here? It’s pissing me off