Hi all. I'm looking for insight and encouragement.

I'm not sure if trigger warnings are done here but there is mention of infertility.

I've been trying to get a hysterectomy for 3 years now and finally found two doctors who've heard my case and agreed to do the surgery. I have several reproductive issues that cause acute pain and this surgery could greatly improve my quality of life.

My husband is supportive but I'm feeling discouraged as the rest of our family thinks we should have kids first. My husband and I have already told them we're childfree, and I'm most likely infertile due to my conditions anyway, if I were ever to become pregnant they would be high risk pregnancies. I've long since mourned my fertility and at this point have pretty much made up my mind about getting this surgery.

I don't think our family has a right to lay claim on our bodies and demand we have children, they aren't saying it for religious reasons either-they find it unnatural and they want us to “at least have one”. I don't think we necessarily need to have children to honor God, and my husband is not Christian (I know this is a no-no but it's too late now).

I'm looking for any thoughts you may have, I've prayed about this situation constantly, I've prayed for confirmation and discernment and so far I still want the hysterectomy. Best case scenario I'll only need one surgery and I'll be able to do more with my life than I can right now. I've considered 2 Corinthians 12:7-9 as well, I will take other scriptures into account if you have any for me.

This ended up longer than I wanted, please forgive me for the length.