SIL put me in depression

sooo, past 6 years my SIL bully and harassed me and my husband. She verbally abused us and I took that abuse as part of her going thru or got divorced ( it was a quick divorce) . She finds small things to fight about and not a single time she hm had sat down with us or had meal as a family.

I had 2 C-Sections with my kids and you require 6-12 weeks of bed rest for your body to recover.

Funny enough i had to clean up house day next I came home with new born baby.

And she went somewhere and didn’t came back till very late. All this time i was looking after my 2.5 and my newborn and no i was not expecting anything from her as she don’t have any empathy for me but for everyone else.

recently on Christmas it’s my son 4th birthday and she had an argument with my husband day before. I didn’t ask for details but she got married again last year (after dating for 2 years and without our knowing) we found that news shocking apparently everyone knew that and we didn’t. (She lives with us and her parents). And After 3 days of marriage she’s back to our house , as she has a Master bedroom here and in her husband house she got small room. ( we live in family house where it’s luxurious for her , she got to pay no bills / groceries and free parking in driveway while i have to park my car outside on road). and she don’t get these luxury in her husband home. After couple of months she separated from her husband and got back in our house.

It was devastating as i just got off from my Anxiety pills ( which caused by her) and i’m always walking on eggshells around to not make her upset. So this Christmas we needed a car to go on wedding of our best friend. ( our car broke down a month ago and still not fixed). We asked favour from oldest brother who is boss of one of major Car brand and he said he’s given courtesy car to his sis ( who’s living with us) and he asked her to give us car for one day if she’s not doing anything on boxing day (26th dec). She agreed, everything sorted in front of everyone and next day in morning she kept snide remark’s about *i could’ve gone for shopping now or couldn’t do anything as my car be gone*. My husband got peeved off and told her she can take car , we not asking anything now. (it’s not her car it was a courtesy). We never ask anyone for favour and that was first and last.

So she swore at my husband and when i told her to turn off extra lights as i was leaving for wedding and that room have 36 Lights and they were more of 60 watts each and she had them all on including PS5 and she often turn them on and leave room . It happened a lot and we keep having spike in electricity bills .

She didn’t care and swear me F you and F you all with all shouting and F my husband so much swearing words and Effing me mostly. I just left as i didn’t want to have bad time. We had borrowed car from someone else and put my kids in that and i didn’t tell my husband till we got back home . He told me not to talk to her at all .

We are not talking or saying hi to her no more and since by doing this, we are really having a better time. She’s been saying alot if narsisstic words and her behaviour been.I went into depression that i’m using a therapy and got anti-depression prescription too all because of her. Recently on eid, she sent a message to my husband which he did not open till i told him and got him peeved off .

Message was basically saying Happy Eid and that him and me aren’t wishing them on this blessed day hoping you have good one.

Basically trying to say she’s going to be bigger person to say that she is very down to earth but we sent messages of Happy Eid to all as in both family groups where she’s Add.

So all in all , by not talking to her or having her involved in our lives made

my mind so clean. But my sons birthday is this Saturday and we only invited my husband brother and older sis family. We don’t want to invite her but her father is here and I don’t know how to explain to him why we don’t want her on my kid party.

(She has always ruin my kids party by bringing her trouble or just find something to put our moods or party vibes down but never to her older brother house). She adore her oldest sis in law and she actually had been laying on floor in her feet to show her loyalty, it’s not figured of speech she actually did that and massage her feet too. But the wife of older brother don’t give a crap about SIL neither she calls us or her parents in law as family.