He’s so selfish, what is there to celebrate?

I scheduled a date night for us tonight for our 5 year anniversary. I honestly forgot about it until yesterday when I got a reminder email. But I’ve been sick for the past couple of days. I asked my bf if he could take me to the mall just to buy new wedges for the dinner. I told him that it was cold outside and I was already sick. He told me “it ain’t that cold”.. and told me to go by myself. Then today he said he would pick me up from work. I asked if he was still coming to get me. He asked “do you still want to go to the mall? Please say no”.. I was confused! Why is he so against going to the mall with me for ONE pair of shoes? I asked him if he’s hiding from someone there or something because it sounds sketchy to me. He said he’s just tired. But he had no problem working all day and then partying all night. Or working all day and being with his friends all night and only seeing me past 9pm. No, he has plenty of energy for that. Mind you, he didn’t even work today. At this point I don’t even want to go to the dinner anymore. To sit there and pretend to be happy with a man that does nothing for me? To go to the mall while I’m sick to buy new shoes for a man that wouldn’t even drop me there? He never makes time for me and I always need to BEG to get him to do things for me/with me, it’s pathetic!