What would you do? Or who would you pick?

 I was adopted at three weeks old my auntie from my dad side adopted me..  since she adopted me I was able to see my dad throughout my life. I am now 25 and married with two kids so I’ve been out the house since I was 19 years old. I have a relationship with my father but it’s not a close one.  He lives two hours away from me.  Whenever he is in town he’ll Visit but ever since my grandparents passed away like almost 2 years ago he hasn’t been putting any more effort. He’ll be in town but not to visit anymore . I’ll find out through my adoptive mom that he’s in town but he doesn’t mention anything to me .

 since my grandparents passing , there has been  personal problems going on with my adoptive mother, my dad.  Anyways, I feel like he just pushed me away. Hasn’t been keeping in touch with me just recently I called him for his birthday and he says hello stranger.  Well, I told him I feel like I have no dad because you never call me. You don’t give me your new number. Etc.. well my question is I’m getting married through the church early next year and I need to figure out who I want to walk down the aisle with my father or my father-in-law, whom I love very much as well, and my father-in-law puts so much money into our venue, which I am freaking blessed for that  Because I know damn well my dad wouldn’t be able to help out with a dime .. idk I’m just stuck between the 2 ..