Tired of this issue

I’m so tired so telling my husband the same things over and over . Explaining the reasons why I do or don’t want to do something . For a while now it’s been an ongoing issue for me to shower . At first he seemed uncomfortable being alone with our baby while I would shower. He didn’t want to her to cry while I was in there and would give me this look when I would say I need to shower . Sometimes I would skip a shower because I would feel bad and not want to get into it with him. It was getting so bad I was only showering once a week at a certain point and it was starting to get to me mentally and emotionally . I felt disgusting and unattractive . My daughter hated when I would shower , she would scream the second I got in . I didn’t want to keep putting her through that and then having a stressful shower . So I stopped trying to shower till he was home to watch her but then that was a problem and he would ask me why I didn’t do it before he got home. So I told him and he tells me she’s not hurt so it’s fine she will be fine. I tell him okay but I don’t want to listen to her crying while I’m in the shower. I never get breaks and he expects me to take her in there with me and listen to her screaming while I try to shower . Not much of a wind down from the day. We ended up having a second baby and the shower thing never changed . I’ve expressed it to him many times and sometimes he is good when I tell him I need a shower and it’s no big deal and how it should be when one says they need to shower . Then other times he has petty immature comments to make or I have to repeat my reasons from before . Today he mentioned he needed to shower so I said I did too. He said he hasn’t showered in 3 days and I said me too. Then he tells me that I’m not out sweating all day . So I replied with yeah but I’m still a human and need a shower . He said something under his breath and wouldn’t tell me what when I asked what he said . Why does it matter if he’s out sweating and I’m not . Okay I’m inside sweating then. He swill expects me to take both kids into the bathroom to shower so he doesn’t have to deal with them when he gets home . I can’t leave a 2 year old and 8 month old alone in the bathroom while I shower . I have to shower with my toddler if I do that. I don’t always want to shower with her and want to be alone . He gets to shower whenever he wants for however long he wants and I can’t . I’m exhausted having this battle with him . I don’t understand why it’s even an issue at all! One time he had the nerve to tell me to figure it out and that a lot of other moms can do it so why can i. I told my mom who’s a mother of 9 and she found that absurd that he can’t watch them . He tells me he doesn’t want to hear their crying but then I have to hear It all day while he’s gone, at night when they wake up, and in the bathroom during my shower!! He can’t handle it for 10 maybe 20 minutes! So his wife can shower . Why do I have to keep explaining myself . Sometimes I feel alone in this parenting thing .