I don’t know what to do anymore

So I’ve been at home the whole week right so I decided to go to the shop I told my parents that I’m going out and my boyfriend met me at the store from there we went to his house my mom kept on calling me and reacting me shouting and swearing at me saying that I can’t help myself because I left the house so my mom was like I’m going to speak to your father tonight and tell him what you up to, saying that I’m disrespecting my parents and rules i should decide if I want to be at home or be my boyfriends bitch so my mom was like so you think it’s okay that your father knows that you sleep by your man …….. by the way I’m turning 23 next week

He know I sleep at my boyfriend but they want me to report every single thing like I should tell them where who and what I’m doing and what time I should come home

My mom said to me seen that you said you going to the shop you better see that you get home I asked my mom why does she want to tell my dad what I’m up to she said cause he should know what I’m up to and sometimes my mom expects me to ask permission to go out if i would just leave she would call my dad tell him that he should speak to me and I must ask permission to go out

So it’s like when ever I get work my mom will be fine with me coming home late from work because she expects money but if I want to do thing like go out with my bf or do something she complains

All she does is emotionally blackmail me