I’m in my mid 20s and have never had a relationship. I’ve been talking to a guy for about 4 months now and I really like him. So much so that I gave him my virginity 🙈 at first in the second month I was wondering why he doesn’t want to call me his and became very confused with dating timelines especially since the last time I even attempted was in high school.

Currently, I think not labeling is a really good thing. I’m still enjoying getting to know him and having fun when/ where we can. I want to know what his bad sides are and let him know mine before I claim to the world with full conviction THIS GUY IS MY BOYFRIEND. but therein lies another timeline question. How long do I wait before I start losing respect for myself as a woman following a guy around who doesn’t (at least in the present moment) have intentions of calling me his gf.

For clarity’s sake I did ask him what his intentions were lest I waste my time and he told me he did want a relationship with me but timeline was shaky. At first I was vibing and super chuffed with his answer but now I just keep wondering “how long will it take?” “How long am I really willing to wait?” “Is there a hint I should be taking to fuck off?” It doesn’t help that I recently saw a video of a guy explaining that some people (specifically guys) will date a girl/ person simply so others can’t have them. Or they know they will never want to be in a relationship with the girl but she keeps the depression at bay so they’ll keep her around. “Is that something I should worry about?”

It also doesn’t help with my confidence 😂 I keep wondering what I need to do, say, act, wear, etc. to be desirable enough that someone (not just him but anyone) wants to claim me as their person