17 weeks extremely insecure

As the title reads I am almost 17 weeks and I’m finding myself feeling extremely insecure, I got out of a 13 year abusive relationship the beginning of last year and met my current partner in early September, when me and my partner got together he was always affectionate and sweet and there was a lot of intimacy. Within 3 months he because more distance and seemed uninterested, I tried bringing it up but he just make out I am too needy, I feel like I have been lied to and now I am stuck, the lack of affection and intimacy is making me very upset, I feel so insecure and unwanted, I made a stupid comment this morning when I walked into the bedroom and he’d just quickly pulled his hand out from under the cover and fumbled his phone so I asked if I was interrupting, I know it was stupid and snarky I shouldn’t have said it, but the idea he would watch porn and masturbate over wanting to be intimate with mw is very hurtful, he went ballistic at me and now I just give up, I’ve apologised many times but he can’t seem to understand that my insecurities are stemming from lack of affection and intimacy with him, intimacy isn’t just about sex for me, it’s how I feel bonded and wanted with him, I’m extremely depressed, I just want to feel loved

Please any advice?

Thank you ❤️