HELP!!! i feel so disrespected by him…i’m so unhappy.

this is going to be a bit long but if you have time please read…i really need some advice! i’m starting to feel very unhappy/disrespected by the father of my kids ages 5, 2 and 5 months. i am a stay at home mom and he works outside of the home. i appreciate him so much for everything he does for our family. he works so hard, and because of him i’m able to stay home with my babies and homeschool and i feel very blessed. i tell him this all the time.

BUT i can’t help but get overwhelmed. i feel as though i’m the one doing everything and he hardly ever helps me. he leaves all his things around the home (clothes, towel, hair brush, tooth brush, q-tips, etc.) i’ve expressed to him how it makes me feel numerous amounts of times and he apologizes and says he won’t do it anymore, but still does. i even got him a laundry basket that is kept in the laundry room specifically for his work clothes because they’re dirty- and yet he still puts them on the floor next to the hamper or around the house.

i’ve asked him if he could please clean up after dinner (so that we can spend time together) the odd odd time he will…but most of the time he will say it’s not his job basically and so after i’m done putting the baby down for the night i have to go clean instead of relaxing or i have to wake up to a messy kitchen because i was too tired to clean. i feel like i don’t have a moment to myself, and so that’s why i get upset when he goes to the gym because i feel it’s not fair that he can do what he wants, but i can’t.

i find he rarely wants to spend time with me. during dinner he pulls his phone out and looks at social media. he answers calls/texts...dinner time is important to me. i like to talk and just have family home.

honestly because of all of this we’re not intimate very often because i just don’t feel loved/appreciated. which further more affects our relationship. i just wish he would understand!

i’m at the point where i’m going to just leave all his little messes he makes around the house and not clean it anymore. and so his laundry won’t get done either because i’m tired of going around the house cleaning up after him. i’m also wanting to just not spend any time with him. ignore him how he ignores me. just act like i don’t care anymore. any advice would be so greatly appreciated. i’m so so tired of this. i just wish he was more understanding/helpful.