“I wish you had more respect for yourself”

“I wish you had more respect for yourself”

That’s what my bf just said to me. I’m so taken back lmao I’m a mom of two, have no social media (meaning I’m not posting pics of myself looking for attention), I DONT dress bad (he’s literally told me I dress like my 55yr old aunt).

He said this because we were talking about how much my mom has made in tips (she’s a bartender) and I said how I wish I could bartend because of how good the money can be. He related being a bartender to doing onlyfans and selling my body for money, then made the remark about respecting myself, then walked out…..

Did I say something wrong? Is it wrong of a mom of two and someone in a committed relationship to work in a bar?

Mind you I don’t have a job, he wants me to be a SAHM, so I am. I just feel like now it’s all adding up, to him being insecure and needing to be in control.