A one person, person?

Question

All my life I’ve only been able to have one person in my life. 
Either I have a best friend or I have a boyfriend. Not a group of friends. Not a best friend and a boyfriend one or the other. 
Is this some kind of mental thing? Has anyone heard of this. I just realized this. I cannot manage multiple relationships with people… Only one at a time.. Either I have a friend or I have a boyfriend. Family is different and even then I disassociate from them as well. (With the exception of my immediate family mom, dad, brothers, sister, nieces and nephews) the rest of my family. I just can’t. 
I do want friends but I can’t seem to commit to talking to them everyday. Now my boyfriend I can talk to all day everyday and no problem. But my friends? I’ve completely ghosted them. I don’t want to be like this but I am… and I’ve always been this way. As a kid and teenager I had one friend. She had other friends.. but she was my only friend. And when I would get a boyfriend I wouldn’t really hang out with her… I don’t know 😣

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I’m kind of the same way. It’s hard to make time for everyone and have energy for everyone. I’ve always chalked it up to being an introvert. People drain me. I require a lot of alone time 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’ve never been able to handle having a lot of people in my close circle.

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Not trying to be rude, but, my mom dated a guy who’s daughter was a few years older than me. I was in high school at the time and she in college. She had Aspergers. She was one of the most intelligent people ever. I wanted to be an English major and she WAS an English major so even though she struggled socially, I cared for her a lot and we got pretty close. She was a lot like you were describing, but to the extreme. To the point where it would become a bit obsessive to those around her. Because we got semi close, she got very abrasive to the other people in my life. Once I invited her to hang out w my long time bff and I, and that was a big mistake. She became resentful of my little sister who was only 8 bc she was my actual sister. Then, when I was getting concerned, she got a BF and transferred all her attention to him and I didn’t exist any more, which made me feel bad but it was kinda a relief. I think she had a tendency to make one person the center of her whole world, responsible for all her happiness, affection, socialization etc. which tends to put a lot of pressure on that person and can be devastating to learn that other person doesn’t place that hyper-importance on you. While I’d caution you to not make ONE person the center of everything, if it works for you and they’re able to have other friendships without it bugging you, you may just be an introvert with a small social tank that gets filled quickly

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You don’t have to talk to someone everyday or even every week to be friends. You don’t have to hang with them 24/7 either.

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I’m kind of the same. I just don’t have the energy for everyone and certain people drain me. I really only like talking on the phone to my sister. Anyone else calls me and I’m annoyed. Idk why. But I am married and I have learned to make time for friends because it’s important… but I don’t hang out often. But I will check in from time to time and have a girls night every now and then. Try your hardest to keep in touch with your friends. It doesn’t need to be daily, but send a  text once a week or so to keep that communication open,

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Im the same. I have friends, but ive been with my fiance now for 13 years and i rarely go out with my friends and its been like that since we started dating. We will hang out with my fiances group of friends and their wives/girlfriends but even then i try not to go out of my way to hang out with their girlfriends either. Life just happens and if im honest my fiance is my bestest friend anyways so hes all i need in that area.

A one person, person?

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