Need some tips and tricks!

Hi! I need some tips and tricks to help me reach orgasm in the bedroom! The more I talk with friends the more uncommon it is I have realized that I can’t orgasm from sexual intercourses . I thought this was a normal thing but apparently it isn’t ! I really want to figure out how I can help myself achieve this cause I always seem to let my partners down when I can’t . I try to explain to them it’s a me thing 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’ve had experience in the bedroom so it’s not like I’m shy or uncomfortable or don’t know what I like it just is completely unachievable for me ! I’ve recently heard that Ben wa balls help a bunch ? True? false ? Or any other tips and tricks ??