Can an abusive relationship change you to become a mean person?

Question

I hope I don’t offend no one. I need to be heard and don’t know where to seek help. I am in an abusive relationship. He got physical once by shoving me. He’s mainly mentally abusive. The list is long. He has put me down so many times

We have periods where he treats me so nice and it’s like the guy I first met. Like right now we have been doing well for 3 months.

I’m analyzing myself and I’m miserable. Like I’m jealous of girls who are happy. I tend to not put up with shit and get really mean. I’m embarrassed to admit this but I fight anyone before they hurt me. Not physically but verbally. I have a strong mouth. This isn’t me. I know I have a kind heart but why do I find joy when other people are not happy? I’m careless

Answer

You need to leave him. You dont love him because of how he has treated you. Dont stoop to his level of being sour and mean, put your big girl pants on, tell him how you feel.. tell him because of the way he has treated you that you no longer love him like you did. And leave. Sometimes verbal abuse hurts way more than the physical.. im sorry this is happening to you

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Happiness is a basic human emotion that everyone has the right to feel and when someone else is taking that away from you and draining you emotionally you lash out at those who remind you of what you are missing and the hurt that you’re feeling. He’s making you feel vulnerable and insecure and when those feelings combine you react in ways that don’t necessarily reflect your true character. That doesn’t make you mean or a bad person but it does mean you have to make some changes for your own mental health, please remember that with someone like that even when things are good, they’re not really good. Leaving is your first step towards a new life and being the person you want to be! Good luck, you’re going to be fine x

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It could be that you're not 'allowed' to express yourself / fight for yourself at home so you're trying to compensate for it in other situations.
You need to leave him. The fact the abuse is progressing to him shoving you means it's going to get worse. He's exploring your boundaries right now and you need to put a full stop to it as it's getting worse already. Don't be fooled by the honeymoon period, this is a known tactic of abusers.

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Absolutely. Being stressed and unhappy and constantly exposed to abusive behavior and general￼ negativity can absolutely cause emotional and ￼mood issues. ￼

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Sure, abuse and psychological stress affects everyone differently. 
You should leave your abusive relationship.

Can an abusive relationship change you to become a mean person?

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