Long story short, I don't have perfect relationship with my in laws. In particular, sister in law and mother in law. MIL posted pictures of my daughter on her facebook feed without my permission with a text "I love my granddaughter with all my heart" yet she never ever calls us, never visits us. She also has some political views that I don't support and I would never ever speak on them, for example, Ukrainian war and "that they deserve that"... so one day, I asked her politely to take down my daughters pictures, cause firstly, she didn't have permission to post them, secondly, her friend circle is 100% strangers and I don't want strangers to see my daughters photos ( you never know who is doing bad things with childrens photos). She blocked me on messenger. Childish move if you ask me. So I sent her a text "Please remove photos or I will report you to FB for stealing my underage daughters photos and posting them w/o permission. At the time, my FIL was living with us during his post op recovery. So his phone rang and I heard my SIL calling me and my parents (whom she hasn't met in her life even once) some bad, disgusting words, which isn't first time. She even threatened me to beat me up. So anyway, I just told her that karma is a bitch, huh, because of all the disrespect I have been enduring whole time that I was living 10 minutes from them. Thank God we have moved across the country from them. So it has been better. Anyway, after no contact for 4 years , FREAKING 4 YEARS, my SIL calls my husband and asks him to let FIL take my daughter 450km (5 hour drive) away, for one day to see her. Mind that my daughter is 5 years old. I blew up. There is no way she just asked that. We said "no" but on the inside I was boiling from anger. How dare she to call and ask that so casually after ignoring us and my daughter for 4 years. Am I wrong for not letting my daughter go?! I guess we will find that out this weekend, when the In laws will gather together and bad mouth me again . I have always said that my daughter isn't responsible for making relationship with people, if they care enough about her, then they will make an effort. Family title doesn't mean anything to me, respect me, I will respect you. I am not here to make someone love my daughter.. so I would like to know opinion of others about this. Disclaimer: English isn't my mother language, sorry about any mistakes.