I don’t know what to do…

My hub is a PhD student and I’m a SATM with our two kids. One five month old and a three year old. When he gets home he helps with the kiddos to a degree and then plays video games. Which is fine, I understand he is busy and wants to relax a bit when he gets home. But this evening after dinner the baby just wanted to be with me so I took the baby and was playing with the toddler at the same time. I asked if he would stay with us so we could have family time. He said he didn’t want to. I mention he is gone all day and should spend time with us. Then the room was too stimulating for him (the next excuse). So I ask what he is going to do and he says “have some time to myself.” To which I respond, “oh that’s nice.” Because I am literally with the kids 24/7. He gets mad and leaves the room and now is laying on the bed in our room staring at his phone while I have both kids by myself. This happens ALL THE TIME. Like somehow he is obliged to have “time to himself” when he gets home and I don’t. My work doesn’t end just because he walks through the door. I’m at my wits end because I love him, but he is a butt sometimes and completely oblivious to the needs of those around him. He just wants to play video games or stare at his phone. He can’t even put our daughter to bed (which he does occasionally because I typically put both the kids to bed as well) without watching reels at the same time. Then without any quality time somehow expects I will want to have sex when I do finally get the kids to bed. I just don’t know what to do or how to better explain that this has to change or I’m going to start resenting him…