How to not attract a toxic or abusive partner?

I have a lot of generational trauma in my family. I also have a lot of female in my family that constantly attract abusive or toxic men. Also grew up with an abusive father, brother, and a mentally ill brother.

I’m currently 25 and never dated. I came close to dating in college but didn’t work out due to religion differences. I’m very introverted and lack a lot of confidence because of my physical health disabilities. I’m also afraid of attracting parents like all my family members now that I’m more aware of these patterns. I’m definitely more aware of these problems than most people in my family, but how do you break these generational cycles? I’m in therapy but wanting to know if others out there can relate and provide advice. Thanks!