Relationship help

What would you do?

My boyfriend doesnt go out drinking / partying very often since we had our 2 year old. Maybe like once every few months. I have no issue with him going out with his friends sometimes. But my issue is that he ALWAYS tells me hes going out for a couple of drinks then will come home. And then he doesnt, he doesnt come home till the morning.

We’ve had so many arguments over the years everytime he does this. I literally cant make it clearer to him, i dont care if he goes out all night and comes home in the morning, BUT TELL ME THATS WHAT YOURE DOING. Dont lie and say youre only going out for a couple.

(btw, no doubts of cheating or anything, hes just out with his boys but its the lying).

I say to him over and over if hes not coming home till late / morning, just message me letting me know. I want communication and just to let me updated on what hes doing and when he’ll be home. Everytime we argue, I think hes understood but then he’ll do the exact same thing again next time he goes out.

I’m pregnant again after a miscarriage earlier this year. I’ve been having a rough time with this pregnancy and looking after a toddler. He wanted to go out for a friends birthday last night “for a couple drinks”. I literally said to him thats fine, but if its not going to be a couple of drinks please please please tell me. If hes going to come home later please let me know. Literally said I’m hormonal and I cant deal if he lies about it. He said he will be back later and let me know.

No messages, not a single thing from him and he doesnt get home till 4am.

I’m beyond upset and said to him today I dont want to be with him anymore. Not because he went out but because yet again it wasnt “just a couple of drinks” and he didnt keep me updated despite the fact we’ve been over this so many times.

Am I in the wrong here? Am i that physco girlfriend? Or am I justified in just wanting some fucking communication if hes going out drinking? He thinks I’m over reacting which actually upsets me even more as he clearly just doesnt fucking get it. Its not that he went out, he can go out for a week long bender if he wants JUST FUCKING TELL ME THATS WHAT YOURE DOING.