What is your advice on my boyfriend's plan on having children in the future?

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My boyfriend finally changed his mind and is open to having one child 20 years from now because he will have enough money for them. He doesn't have a job but gets money from the stock market that he invests every month. But in 20 years I will be too old to have them naturally so I told him I want one in my 30's but he says he probably won't be ready for that. If I convince him that there is options for low income parents will he still be open to getting me pregnant a few years from now?

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Your boyfriend doesn’t want kids.

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The statement alone “having one child 20 years from now” seems ridiculous as is. I’m confused as to why your boyfriend feels he’ll be broke for the next 20 years as well. 
Why doesn’t he start preparing financially for his future now? Why does he think he’s gonna be financially incapable in the next 5 years. 
Why doesn’t he get a job now? 
As well as, do not settle for someone who is unsure what they want. Because if you really want kids and you settle just for him to change his mind, you wasted your time because in my eyes I see him just telling you what you want to hear just for him to say he never really wanted kids in the first place in the next few years…

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Don't try to convince someone to have children if they don't want them or aren't ready for them. Simple as that. 
If having children is a HARD boundary for you, something you want to have in your life, then you need to find a partner who shares that goal. You should NEVER try to force someone to have a child that they don't 10000% want to bring into this world.

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I would t reproduce with someone who doesn't have a job and is that broke and I wouldn't have a child with someone that I had to talk into it. Sounds like you guys are not compatible

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Take the advice from your last post. You're being ridiculous.

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He doesn't want kids. He's just stringing you along and you need to break up. The red flags this guy is waving in your face are massive.

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Leave him he doesn' twant them & if $ is the issue he could get a job but isnt willing for that either it sounds...hes giving you the truth so move forward without him

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He will drag it along.

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You are wasting your time if this is something that you truly want. If you want them in the next five years or 10 years, I don’t know how old you are 12 making you 32 in the next 20 years I have no clue, but he doesn’t want kids. And clearly this guy isn’t making enough to support you get alone a child by not working and only investing in the stock market once a month. Clearly he needs to get off his ass, get a job, support himself yet alone you because if you do have a child, most likely you’re gonna be out from maternity leave and if you can’t afford daycare, you’re gonna be home with a child, pretty sure he can’t support you on Penny stocks. Unless he invested an apple when he was in the womb, pretty sure he’s gonna have to get off his ass and get a job. What you want is someone who is stable, who wants the same things as you, not somebody you have to convince to love you, or convince to have children or convinced to get married. You don’t want the same thing. Stop begging a man to give you a child or to love you or anything else. I don’t know if it’s a control thing, denying you what you want, or manipulation, or just him having the upper hand, him, thinking he can do as he pleases, but you’re the one who tolerates the behavior. Stop allowing it or pick somebody better Who wants the same thing. I myself do not want kids, I choose partners who also don’t want kids, or their kids are grown and out of the house and don’t want to start all over again. I would never choose somebody who wants more kids because I don’t want them I don’t want any kids in all honesty. He he happens To come with kids fine , but I don’t want kids. ￼

What is your advice on my boyfriend's plan on having children in the future?

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