He’s screaming at me over the bills

Let me preface this with- I’m legally disabled and get a monthly check. With my check I help with a few bills and all household items needed. My husband works a full time job and also has a small business he runs.

Tonight he tells me he has to call the electric company and gas company and beg them not to shut us off because he has no money. I got really upset about it because last night we went Christmas shopping for our two kids with the little bit of money I have left over from my check. We spent $100 in total. I have $80 left. I told him I really wish he would have told me about this because I would have put that money towards those bills. He screams at me that it doesn’t matter, that he needs me to use it for groceries. Again, I wish he would have said something because I would have spent that money on the bill and groceries had I known. This man starts punching his chest while screaming at the top of his lungs at me that it doesn’t fucking matter. That he’s not making enough money to get us by and that no matter what we do it won’t work. I’ve suggested doing an envelope system like we did In the past (with way less income than now) he refused. I mentioned paying off my personal loan and I’d take over the electric- he refused. I told him let’s figure out what to cut out monthly to make things more manageable. He said that won’t work. Then screams at me that he isn’t making money so what’s the point in doing these things if he’s not bringing anything in. I’m beyond upset at this moment. We literally could have worked through all of this if he would have spoke to me about it.