Hey loves, I wasn’t sure which section to ask this in so figured I’d put it here too.

My bf (m20) and I (f21) have been together for about 14 months now. Sex was constant when we first started dating. A lot of stressors, pregnancy scares, uterine issues (endometriosis), and fights occurred (our communication is much better now!) I took his virginity which definitely adds to the attachment of everything too for context.

I’ve also been prescribed a new medication for adhd (Concerta) on top of my antidepressant (Citalopram) plus a surgery and constant life stressors that are making it hard for me to even get turned on.

Over the last 6 months, I’d notice I start to get emotional after orgasming which is common but it’s still very overwhelming. That and I feel like I just am never horny anymore except for on my period or the week before sometimes yet still rarely.

I usually only use the vibrator to finish during sex while he finishes on me so we both finish together. I wish I could teach him what I like but I can’t even figure out what I like myself besides the vibrator so I can’t blame him. He’s tried different techniques but nothing really hits the spot for me. My libido is basically nonexistent right now, and no, I don’t feel it for anyone else, so it’s like that in general. We’ve talked about it multiple times and he says he’s okay to wait and he doesn’t care if it’s not as constant as before but we’re having sex probably once every month and a half now that we’re back in college, with the occasional hand play or two every monthish but we went on a 3-4 month break before summer started too. I feel terrible. I don’t want to ruin his first relationship. Part of me hurts thinking that he’d probably be better if he met someone who can fulfill him in those ways but he says he doesn’t want anyone else. This is a huge sacrifice for him and it kills me knowing how hard it is for him (pun intended). Does anyone have advice on how I can fix this? There are a lot of contributing factors but is it still possible to fix? Or should I just suck it up and help him out every once in a while?