Is he just playing mind games?

I feel like my situationship tries to trap me into whatever weird relationship/“thing” we have. For example, he gets jealous and possessive but claims to have no feelings for me. Sometimes he will, ON HIS OWN, offer to cuddle or sleep together. Last night, I got really drunk and he wanted to have sex. But I guess I was hugging him and he felt weird - even tho he asks for a hug everyyy other time? After I left, he texted me and said he “doesn’t have the capacity to give affection and if I want more I should move on” and how he’s said before that if I want more I should move on. And he has said it before, but then shortly after told me that he didn’t want me even trying to date someone while he’s in my life at all - even made me promise I wouldn’t, and if he even catches me talking to another guy, even as a friend, he gets mad and acts insanely jealous.

I just feel like he’s trying to trap me into this “relationship” so I don’t stop having sex with him. And, on his own terms, he acts like he’s my boyfriend, and then other times he pushes me away. I don’t get it. But I guess that’s part of him trying to trap me in too. I just feel stupid for letting him do it.