Vent needed: Xmas

So i asked for 3 things for Christmas, nothing overly pricy nothing insane because we cant afford it and i handle the finances but im a SAHM. I asked for a necklace, a hair clip and a bottle of perfume that I like but still reasonable in price range. I had already got H concert tickets, the items he asked for and a few other things. I had to send him the links to what to get me, as he can't seem to figure out what I like (been asking for the perfume for 6 months) no effort goes in at all, he doesn't even get me cards anniversary or otherwise. He first complained about the shipping cost of one of my asked for items, to me while ordering it. Now he's told me he had to get the perfume in installments...I gave him more than enough from the finances he also got a reimbursement so had extra money. Already told me I wasn't getting anything else (he never does if he says that) I'm honestly at my wits end with him. He's told me when I do laundry I'm just 'pushing a button it's not that hard' so I said that to him when he came and told me he'd been busy and done laundry. Firstly nah bud you aren't getting any gold stars when I cook, clean, take care of the kids and finances and then am expected to baby you too. I don't think I'm being unreasonable in feeling like I'm an after thought. Especially when I did all the Christmas shopping, wrapped it all and put effort and thought into his gifts but I have to share a link because he doesn't know what to get me after 11 years of marriage. Like wtf seriously? The complaining about it and basically asking me to give him more money because he got something on installments makes me no longer want any of the things i asked for.