Sex with him sucks!! Picture to find it later

So my bf and I have been together about 7 months now and idk how to tell him he isn’t exactly skilled when it comes to having sex. I try and help voice what I am enjoying or when I am liking it and then bam he switches up. Almost like he doesn’t know what to do and he is in a rush. I’ve voiced before that I would like him to take more time down there even if it’s just with his hands but I guess it doesn’t do anything for him since he loses his boner. My pleasure seems to take a total back seat. I’ve done the whole sneaking off into another room, getting myself super close (he doesn’t know), and then try and have sex together so we can both cum…never happens. I’ve tried toys while having sex and then he I need him to slow down so I can catch up, he just stops or doesn’t stop and just cums then sex is completely over. I want him to cum, ok. I love that he is getting pleasure, I just wish mine mattered just as much.