Missed miscarriage…how long to wait?

Question

On Thursday 12/28 I went in for ultrasound and was told there was no heartbeat. The baby was measuring about 8 weeks but I was about 10. Not really sure though because my cycles are long and ovulate late. They declared it a miscarriage. We are devastated. Especially since I had another one in august. We have a healthy 2 year old so I know I can have a healthy pregnancy. I have had no symptoms on this miscarriage which made this one come as a big shock. It looks like I must be having what they call a missed miscarriage. I was given 3 options. Wait for it to happen naturally, take medication, or d&c. I want to wait cause what if they were wrong about the heartbeat and my weeks. But also if it is a miscarriage then I want it to be over. I’m so torn and lost and heartbroken. Any advice? Has anyone had a missed miscarriage and waited? How long did you wait for it to happen naturally?

Answer

I usually try and wait these out at least a couple weeks. I’ve had 2 MCs I passed naturally and 2 missed MCs, so I’ve experienced all the ways to process. I believe now they have a law they have to do a follow up ultrasound before they prescribe you alternative ways to process.. not sure if it’s everywhere though. 
I will say waiting to process for these missed MCs has not gotten me anyway where tho. One time I had a blightemed ovum (meaning baby didn’t develop at all) we found out about at our 9 week scan (I ovulate late too). I waited over a month after that due to holidays (longer than I normally would’ve) to see if body would process and it never got anywhere. I was prescribed the pill to process. I DO NOT RECOMMEND THIS. By farrrr the worst and most painful MC. It was not normal I was soaking literally through a pad every 15 mins max for 24 hours, I was light headed, it was bad. I prob should’ve gone into the ER. 
I had another missed MC a few months later. I told dr about my experience with the pill and she told me she wasn’t very surprised, she’s never had anyone pick that option? I was like uh I wish I knew that when choosing! I see why! Anyway we decided to do a d&c. I always thought of it as a last resort bc it’s surgery, but it’s not. You also have the option to get the fetus tested to have some clues why the mc happened which was very beneficial for me in my ttc journey. It was a super easy experience. 10 min quick surgery and I felt great after. Husband and I went out to dinner after even. I spotted for a few days then started bleeding like a heavy period. Felt just like a period. 
Passing naturally felt just like a period to me too. They are not painful for me and bleeding is super manageable. My MCs have not been bad at all to process. Besides the pill. Def avoid that! 
So sorry you’re in this situation. I would try waiting a couple weeks and if nothing happens, I’d choose a d&c. You can always ask for a follow up ultrasound before your alternative route to process is taken

Missed miscarriage…how long to wait?

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