I'm so sleep deprived sick and exhausted and I'm feeling like my husband doesn't get it. I'm trying to figure out before tomorrow in the daylight if I'm being reasonable or is he just not getting it.

We have multiple kids and I am the primary parent 100% of time. It normally works fine for our dynamic. Here's the exception all our kids have RSV. I'm coughing too. I am exhausted. I have had kids in and out of the ER at night and haven't had sleep for days. Our baby isn't sleeping and I've been monitoring around the clock as there has been oxygen issues the minute their fever goes to 99 so have been rotating Tylenol and Motrin for the baby. Baby won't sleep unless being held and isn't taking a breast as they couldn't latch. Husband was told all of this by the way. 2:30 this morning I hit a wall I haven't slept for days and baby needed to be held. I woke my husband up asking for help. This is maybe the the only time I've done this with this baby and baby is three months old. I tell husband I'm sorry I am at my breaking point. I give him times of last medicine dosages, where the suction is for nose, last diaper times and his last time he ate. Two hours later my husband is waking me saying the baby needs to be fed and needs medicine. I'm in shock as there are bottles in the fridge. He hands me the baby and goes to lay down in bed. I snapped at him for not changing the baby suctioning him out giving him Motrin and not feeding him.

He kept saying I figured you'd just pump. Why would I ask for help just for you to turn around and give him back to me for two hours. Why would I give you all the instructions on caring for him. I have been up with our sick kids day and night for going on four days and three nights. I haven't had a break or sleep or help. I'm exhausted. I'm so disappointed right now in him as a partner.

He doesn't have work on the weekends so he doesn't have anything more important to do. He has been well rested and taken care of he hasn't even made a meal for himself. Yet he can't heat up a bottle take care of our baby for my well being for more then two hours. I am fuming. He got mad that I was mad than he sat in the dark for an hour while I cared for the baby then decided to go back to bed when I was pumping and suctioning out the baby.

I'm mentally and physically not healthy at this point and I am so tired of telling him that. I get so frustrated I'm told to just communicate what it is I need and I do and he lets me down. I'm so tired of him not taking any accountability for the kids even when I lay it out for him precisely how to help and be a parent. I don't even want to talk to him at this point but he will wake up tomorrow and act like a victim because I snapped at him for waking me to feed a baby he knows how to feed. I'm so detached from him at this point and over it.