So me and my husband have been together for 3 years. Everything has been great we have 2 beautiful girls together and another girl on the way. Our sex life was great until about a year to year and half ago. Some how we added watching porn which I was okay with at first but then I’m not okay with it as I was. It went from watching porn to him telling me since he’s only had sex with me and one other person, he would like you to know how other pussys feel. At first I was like okay he can fantasize about all he wants as long as he doesn’t act on it. It was at first just about the porn stars the. It got down to past co-workers and now it’s at close friends of ours. Mainly one friend of his S. Recently it’s been a constant every time we have sex I can tell when he thinks about her, he becomes more passionate and get into sex a lot more then when she isn’t on his mind. He’s told me in the moment that he in love with her he wants her to have his baby that he wants to marry her make her his own and all that stuff. And you know it didn’t bother me till just yesterday he told me he wants to go over there to see S’s brother in law (his best friend) but he would love to see her and feel her body when she gives him a hug. They have been friends before him and I got together and he always says he regrets not taking his chance with her or fucking get when she gave him the option. I’ve asked him to stop multiple times but he hasn’t. And I don’t know how to talk to him about this. I feel like I was his second choice, that he couldn’t have her at the time so he settled for second best. I have known him since the 9th grade almost 10 years. I am madly in love with him but I sometimes feel the feeling isn’t mutual. Any advice on what to do? I don’t want to leave him I just need to figure out how to talk to him and how to fix this.