How many of you are SAHM and have a joint checking account with your spouse or SO?

Do they constantly give you crap for $ spent by you but when it comes to them, they can spend it on $1,100 toolboxes and a few guns around $600 each or even a $1700 grill and not even consult you with it because it’s their money and they flat out tell you that? That they don’t have to talk about their purchases because it’s their money?

I helped pay for things the majority of our relationship up until recently- SAHM to 1 babe and a 2nd one on the way. I’m so tempted to just be asked to be taken off at this point and let him handle everything on his own. I pay for most of the bills that I have access too along with anything we need at the house- plan it all and get it all. I just want to say screw it and let him do all of it. I don’t get my nails done, I don’t get my hair done.. no lashes and I’ve bought myself 2 pairs of maternity pants that were $10 each. Any $ that’s spent for the majority, I spend it on our house, my husband and our children. I’ve shared any and all $ I’ve ever came across and never once said, no because it’s my money. It hurts and feels like I’m not even considered his partner.

I apologize for the venting.. just at a loss and feeling crappy.