Ok, I need a little advice here. And please no hate comments, I'm already feeling down. So... I have turned 39 in November. I have 2 sons from my first marriage. One just turned 20 and the other one is 16. Left their father due to abuse. So my mother insisted that I go on birth control until I find someone new and get married again. So I did. I got married again a few years later and went off birth control right after. We struggled to conceive and I had to carry us both financially most of the time. Things took its toll and we ended up getting divorced. I moved in on my own and went back onto birth control while I was finding myself again. A little over two years ago I met someone new. We are in a happy and healthy relationship and my partner is so supportive and amazing and he looks very well after me and neither of us are pushing things. We believe everything in life happens in it's own time. So beginning of this year I decided that I'm going off birth control again. Me and my partner have been discussing having a child together and we decided that it would be a huge blessing. Two weeks ago I informed my mother that I won't be using birth control anymore and she asked me why. So I told her that its a personal decision that I made for myself. And that's where it stayed. Or so I thought. Until today. So very early this morning I received a text from her asking me if I'm planning on getting pregnant seeing that I went off birth control now. So I said no we aren't planning anything actively but what will be will be and that I just don't want to be on birth control anymore. This did not sit well with her. She's not happy. She messaged me a long list of con's stating why I can't get pregnant. First one is because I already have two children and that's enough according to her. Secondly I have high blood pressure and I'm taking chronic medication for it. Thirdly I have allergies towards cats (and I have 4 cats), according to her the baby will inherit these allergies (I'm managing mine meds from time to time). Fourth on the list was because.I have scoliosis in my back and I have had Perthe's disease in my hip as a child. Apparently this going to cause complications in pregnancy. And lastly because aparently we did not consider the financial impact it can have on our household seeing that we are looking at a bigger place to stay as well. So my dearest Glow queens.... what I do? Do I respect her feelings and opinions and go back on birth control? Or is it going to be disrespectful to tell her that I have made my choice and I'm sticking to it?