Dealing with a narcissistic and predatory stepfather. Please help!

TW: mentions of traumatic events and sexual abuse. I know why he wants me to go to a tanning salon to get a spray tan or lay in a tanning bed and slim down, he wants me to be attractive enough for him to sexually take advantage of me like he did when we were on the couch watching full metal jacket and having a gew drinks. Whats wrong with me being fair skinned? Absolutely nothing. Like, why even bother getting a spray tan when actually theres chemicals in the spray tan I don't actually want all over my body? I'm getting tired of him mentioning my weight as well as him wanting me to use tampons. Its so disrespectful of him to be so inconsiderate of my preference of pads and period underwear by insisting that I use them because according to him everyone would know that I'm surfing the crimson wave. I thought he didn't want to force me into doing the things that I don't want to do but he keeps on trying to get me to switch from pads to tampons. So he lied to me, that's what I call hypocrisy. I've told him over and over, I dont want to use tampons except he wouldn't listen. Unless he wants to pay my medical expenses for winding up in the emergency room for toxic shock syndrome, he better back off and let me decide on my own. Unless he wants me to be in the clear alert database because I've been snatched up on my way to the store and back, he needs to learn to be considerate and respectful of my decision to listen to my staff when they specifically warned me that it's too dangerous to be walking alone outside even though it's just me getting some exercise. The thing he said about my sister traumatizing me with a tampon is a freaking lie! She didn't traumatize me, the thought of having something inserted into my downstairs area is not my cup of tea. I no longer care if strangers know that I'm surfing the crimson wave, its part of being a woman. I have the right to say no to tampons. Its obvious he's not well educated in women's health and he has no earthly idea what it's like to have a period. He doesn't understand the abuse my foster mother has put me through. She even threatened me with a serious consequence for staining my bed and for not sleeping with a towel underneath my bottom. He made this ignorant uneducated comment that I should learn to pay attention to when I'm bleeding. Uh, excuse me? No! Its not because I'm not paying attention, its because I haven't been using actual pads. I've been using these puny panty liners to manage my flow. Hello! How on earth an I going to be able to pay attention when I'm actually sleeping?! It's impossible because when I'm in a deep sleep, I toss and turn and move around. Blood stains are no big deal, they can come out with either cold soapy water or hydrogen peroxide. I'm almost 31, I'm calling the shots on what feminine products I want to use, NOT him. I'm also in control of my own fun. I dont want to be inappropriately touched while watching a movie. I'm so tired of him not getting through that thick skull of his that im his stepdaughter, NOT his way to sexual gratification! I want to go to Dave and Busters and fly in that flight simulator and go somewhere and shop. What makes my temper burn even hotter is he wanted me to make female friends on his terms and not mine. Whats the matter with me having guy friends? Nothing! 😠 I want to make female friends at my own pace. I want him to leave me alone about it and let it be. I'll make some friends at my own pace. When it comes to being friends with someone, I ought to find out if they're trustworthy or not. There are some people who I cant trust. I've grown very tired of hearing the same thing more than once! I'm trying to befriend other females except I'm finding out that I cant trust anyone on social media due to online predators and scammers.