Husband using OF?

Question

I caught Only Fans charges on my husbands bank account about two weeks after I gave birth to our first child. This was about a year ago. He had been paying for it for years, while we were together and have been for 8 years. It was so painful to see but also I’m pretty sure he lied and said he doesn’t know how the charges got there.  But when I saw it I tried making an account with his email and it said email already taken. He quickly deleted it after he noticed I was trying to log in. I don’t really care about watching things like that. I do every now and then. I know most people do. Especially if you’re just alone and needing to get things done. But it’s the PAYING for it that is upsetting me and I can’t over it. And I don’t even know what he was watching or if he was sending messages because he deleted the account. We have since then merged bank accounts so I know he doesn’t use it or pay for it anymore.
How do y’all feel about that? I don’t know what to do. I want to forgive because I’m a SAHM and we have a baby… it’s so hard ☹️
He’s a great loving husband that has always taken care of me. I was his first and I also think he watched stuff to learn too.

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The fact he’s paying for specific women’s content and possibly interactive content would enrage me 
There’s a PLETHERA of free porn on every inch of the internet 
There’s NO excuse for a married man to be taking money from the family for his porn habit. 
I’d be demanding that shit is done and I’ve said before I would expect him to match the same amount he’s put into OF into me and my child (if I had a child)
If he has all that extra money he should be treating you, not random women online!!!!

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Usually the OF accounts are just the tip of the iceberg. I would leave a man immediately. I know that seems dramatic, but just from experience, it’s ALWAYS more than you think hidden.

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Like someone else said, you’re probably only seeing the tip of the iceberg. He’s lying, has been lying for years. Y’all have been together for that long and he’s been paying for porn all that time?? So much about this would bother me. He probably has a serious addiction and has just found another way to get his fix since y’all merged the bank account. He likely has other email accounts that he has OF accounts with. He/yall probably need serious therapy for any hope of salvaging this marriage.

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watching porn alone .. is a lot for a man in love. i know you said you don’t think too much of that but maybe you should because when it reaches the extent of only fans , trust when i say it’s an addiction. when men arent brought to the realization of how bad of what they’re doing actually is, they have no problem continuing that behavior. there’s no way he’s completely fine with just deleting and going back to regular porn .. trust me when i say every moment he has alone , he will be itching to look up that shit again. try your best and it’ll take many draining moments but if you think truthfully your relationship is still mendable , you work out your best possibilities, being quiet will only tarnish the relationship.

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