IVF experience

Hi all! My husband and I are starting our IVF journey soon. We have a tour scheduled on the 15 of this month to check out a facility. I was curious if anyone in California had some advice on what to expect and how did you pay for it?! It’s so expensive and California doesn’t require any infertility treatments to be covered by insurance. Is there anyone who went out of state for IVF and had success and maybe saved a little bit of money? I am just so stressed out about this whole process and am really trying to keep my mind quiet…