Baby #2 and moving out?

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So me and my bf are currently talking about baby #2. I have  already gotten my iud taken out so it could happen soon. We talked about moving out with possibly my brother or my dad or even both either getting a 2 bedroom or 3 bedroom with them . I have already asked my brother if he would want to move in with us he said he wasn’t sure. I didn’t mention to him about us having another baby. My boyfriend said I should mention it to him that we are planning on having another baby. And I just told him I would want to tell them when I am pregnant and see if they would want to move in together to get a bigger place and it will benefit all of us. My dad and brother are currently living with my grandma but they sleep in the living have no privacy. And that’s why I would want to ask them if they would want to move in together so they can have their own room and be comfortable. My dad and brother work full time . Currently they aren’t paying rent with my grandma but should I let them know that we are planning on having baby number 2 before I get pregnant or when I am pregnant? My boyfriend thinks it would be a issue with a baby crying in the house in the middle of the night because they would probably hear the baby cry but that’s why I told them it doesn’t hurt to ask them and then tell them I’m pregnant and that’s them think about it and then give me a answer. My family of 3 currently in a studio so this is why I would want to get a bigger place and have my dad or brother or both move in and help with rent but they could also have there own space as well. Any advice??

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Yes you should mention that you're trying for another baby! The answer will likely change to a no. The 2 of you need to be able to find a way to afford a bigger place on your own without relying on family before you add another baby into the mix. You're parents and need to be responsible. It'd be highly irresponsible to bring another child into the family if you can't even afford to provide your family with a bigger place.

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Wait…so you’re already a family of 3, want another baby, and want your dad and brother to move in with you but are looking at 2 and 3 bedroom places?  That’s not enough space and if you and your husband can’t afford a place by yourselves you shouldn’t be moving or trying for another baby at this point

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Idk that it’s a good decision to live with two grown ass men who haven’t been able to move out on their own yet. You have three people already to worry about let alone other people who don’t seem grown. Also think you should wait to try and get pregnant until you found some place and have been living there for a while. Also I feel like a 2/3 bedroom would be small for 6 people living together.

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My advice is get your own place for your family of 3 before adding another baby. Your brother and Dad should be able to support themselves and they're not accustomed to paying rent, which will stress your relationship. My husband and I had a hard time in a small space when we transitioned to 2 kids, and it was much easier once we moved into a full house.

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Yes, absolutely tell them. It could change their decision.

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Get your own place, just the 3 of you before bringing another baby into the situation.

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This doesn’t sound fair to your family members. If you cannot afford another child, which you can’t if you and your partner cannot afford a larger home on your own, it is not smart to depend on other people for your living situation. If either of them decide to leave it seems that you and your partner cannot afford a bigger place. Do not put your family in a situation like this. Tell them your plans at least so they understand why you really want them to move in.

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If you're moving in with your dad and brother, you'll need a FOUR bedroom apartment at least depending on the gender of the 2nd baby but you'll definitely need 4 minimum. One for you and your partner, one for your dad, one for your brother and one for your child. The baby can stay in your room up until a certain age and then share if they're the same. A two bedroom apartment are you joking?!!?What kind of sleeping arrangement is that?!!? Even 3 isn't big enough. And what an idea to have your father and/or brother move-in anyway?  Don't you want intimacy with your partner and children? I don't know what kind of man you have but there's no way in hell he  would be moving in his family, I'm NOT living with in-laws!! To help with rent? If you can't afford rent it doesn't sound to me like you should be having a second child. First of all living in a studio with a child is terrible. Children don't stay small and so if you didn't plan on having more children you would have been content with living in a studio for the rest of your life? What about the child's comfort and privacy?

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