Is only fans disrespectful?

Question

Hello! My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and we are 17. He has proven to be so loyal and to love me so much which is why I am a little shocked. Earlier i was on his phone with him and I saw a recent tab on Spotify saying "onlyfans". Naturally, I was curious and asked him about it and clicked on it. There, he was following over 50 girls who he found attractive from instagram and that he "was curious about". He was not paying any of the girls money and explained he just looks at the free bits they have up. I know it is not
cheating and guys have urges but he knows I have really struggled with my body image and comparing myself to other girls so it has really upset me. Do you think I am being dramatic or that I should not be this upset? Also should mention we do have sex regularly and I have sent him nudes and stuff that he also uses.

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If thats a boundary that you set than I say he has to respect that!  Onlyfans is pornography and if that’s something you don’t tolerate just bring it to his attention and tell him how you truly feel. Sometimes its hard for dudes to truly understand women’s emotions and often times they try to dismiss your feelings because they feel like its not a big deal. But maybe creating a scenario where he would feel the same way to get him to understand your feelings and let him know its BIG DEAL to you! That should be enough for him to consider your feelings and how you feel… if not then its time to reconsider being his girlfriend .

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Honey, that sounds like he's disrespecting your boundaries if he knows you have issues with your body image  and  its extra disrespectful if you tell him you dont like it and he continues to do it.... I think you two should have a face to face talk.

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I'm gonna agree with the others and say that if this is a boundary you set then he needs to respects it. But for me this doesn't constitute cheating and isn't a big deal. I watch porn, I’ve scrolled through onlyfans. I see no issue with my man doing the same unless it severely interferes with our sex life. But that is me and my relationship. If you are not okay with it that boundary needs to be set. If it's been set then he should have respected it and if it hasn't, then that's something you need to do. You should sit down and have a conversation with him.

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I’m probably the wrong person to be answering this question bc I think everything is cheating but, I have a big porn boundary set in my relationship and he knows that I am NOT ok with it and never will be. I feel that porn is very disrespectful and it has been proven to alter one’s mind. The worst one to me is onlyfans because it’s the most realistic porn out there in my opinion. Onlyfans is a wandering eye along with all the other sites and if you have a wandering eye you shouldn’t be in a relationship. It shouldn’t be normalized. Again this is my opinion though and I’m very tough when it comes to stuff like this because I’ve been cheated on so many times in the worst ways possible 🤣I set big boundaries from the beginning and if he wasn’t ok with them, we wouldn’t be together 🤷🏻‍♀️if it bothers you then tell him and if he doesn’t listen then he doesn’t respect you and that’s ok. You can do better than that.

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Yeah you have every right to be upset. Porn is a big no in my relationships. There’s this narrative that men are pervs and they all watch it and us women just have to deal with that and that’s bs. You absolutely don’t. And no, not at all men. There’s PLENTY of dudes out there that totally grasps that it’s disrespectful to look at other women’s naked bodies (especially in sexual situations and especially to masturbate too) when they’re in a relationship, unless it’s been discussed otherwise and there’s plenty out there that will respect your boundaries.

Is only fans disrespectful?

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