My ex called me a bad father because I don't want to take our daughter to a father daughter dance Update:

I'm married and me and my wife just our first baby together. I also have 3 kids with two other women. I know that sounds bad but my oldest i had as a teenager. Me and her mom were 15. My oldest is 14 and her mom wanted me to take her to a father daughter dance at her school. She has primary custody of our daughter and I see our daughter every weekend. She goes to a private school that my ex's mother pays for. They're very religious and I'm not(I am Jewish but religious wise) but she really wanted her to go to this school. The dance is a purity ball and I didn't completely understand what that was. Her mom explained it to me and sent me a picture of the flyer and listen, I don't want my kids having sex young. I tell her all the time me and their mom are examples of don't do it young because we struggled a lot as teen parents. But I don't like the dance because there is supposed to be a ceremony where the daughters promise their virginity to their dad until they get married. I'm not trying to be offensive to people's religions. To me that's weird as fuck. I guess these dances are normal. I did research on it and I think it's weird. I told her the whole thing just sounds weird and I'll take her to do something. She called me a bad father so I decided if my daughter really wants me to go than I'll go. I did ask and she said she doesn't even like her school dances because they always suck and told me "And no offense dad. You're really embarrassing when you try to dance so I rather not." Ouch but ok. I said I would take her to the mom and then to a movie that weekend. The dance makes me uncomfortable and my daughter said she doesn't want to go anyway. My ex was upset because she really wanted her to go and she already knew the dress she would wear and no other father has issues with the dance. Me and my daughter found something better we rather do but she's saying I'm a bad father for her having to miss out on this important dance. If she truly wanted to go I would suck up my own feelings about it but she doesn't and she rather go shopping and see a movie.

Update: We had a good weekend. I took her shopping and we saw a movie. We did talk about sex a little bit. I just told her the reason I didn't want her having sex young isn't a purity thing. It's because sex can lead to consequences and I don't want her to struggle like me and her mom did. She told me she understands that. Before we even went out I double checked to make sure she was really ok with missing the dance because I will put my feelings aside if she wanted to go. She said she wasn't friends with anyone at her school anyway and she really didn't want to go and she also felt uncomfortable with the virginity part of it. The sex conversation was awkward. But I just let her know why I don't want her having sex young and it has nothing to do with purity. We had a great time. Her mom is still pissy about it but hopefully we can move past it.