How long to wait for the ring ??

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How long would you wait for your bf to propose before giving up ?? 
I know age can be a huge factor. 
But my bf and I are both in our late 20s and we’ve together for almost 3 years. We live together. 
He knows that I would love to be engaged. But I don’t pressure him because I want him to do it because he wants to, not because I’m forcing him too. But I’m also not gonna wait forever.

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honestly I think it would be good to have a conversation about what you both want in a year, two years, 5 years etc. so you both know what you want and expect. Everyone has their own timeline for those things

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My husband and I were together 6.5 years before he proposed, but we started dating at 15 and we were only 21 when he proposed. That kind of timeline made sense. In my late 20s I wouldn't wait longer than 3 years simply because I had a goal of being done having children before turning 28. I knew if I got to 28 or older I wouldn't have had biological children and would have adopted older children instead.

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i think every situation is different, but ideally you have a partner who is on the same timeline as you. if i was dating someone who wanted to wait 10 years that just wouldn’t work for me lol. have that conversation and compromise or make a decision

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Me and my partner have been together for 9 years and we are not engaged but are happy where we are. Marriage won’t change our relationship

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2 years max but that's pushing it for me.

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Every situation is different. But I would have a conversation of expectations. Like by new years or next summer etc. I was 28 when I met my husband and said I wanted to be engaged by 30 in general as a life goal at some point and he proposed the day before my 30th 
3 years was in my head though too. We both were on the same page of ttc as soon as we were married. It didn’t happen how we planned and had to go through fertility treatments 
What I was firm about not buying property without being engaged. My husband suggested and I was firm nope. Rent first then buy when we are confirmed serious for forever.

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My husband and I met when I was 29 and he was 33. He proposed after a year but I dont think I wouldve waited more than 2 or 3 years like I would have in my early 20s. By that age, I think youre a full fledged adult who should know what you want. If you dont want marriage or dont care either way then thats fine, but you should know that and communicate that, you shouldnt need several more years to contemplate life and get your ducks in a row by that age. Your bf may be willing to marry you but just sees no urgency, youd need to ask him just like you did here. But if youre wanting to 'do it or get off the pot' so to speak then I feel like by now he knows you well enough to be able to make a decision, so if he gives you the 'I need a more time' thing I would want to know what more does he need to know about you or your relationship. If marriage is important to you, I think having a more intentional discussion is appropriate at this point.

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Every situation is different. Some men never want to get married tell you what you want to hear and string you along with no desire to marry in reality. Some are happy playing house with a home and kids and all the benefits without the actual commitment. Why rock the boat. Some a jilted and surrounded by people with horrible divorce or their parents divorce jilted them from wanted to ever go through it themselves. Some feel it’s just a piece of paper. Let’s just be honest it’s easier to walk away from kids than it is to go through a horrible divorce. Some settle. You are good enough to be with or have sex with but not to marry. Stay together for the sake of the kids. Some want to get married. Some have plans or goals that they want to accomplish before marriage like medical school or law school. Or the right job. Or buying a house first everything in order. Then there are the ones that know what they want. Are ready propose in 3 or 6 months. Or 1 year or 3 years. Or 5 years. Some wait 10 years or 15 years. If you get together at 12 clearly you aren’t getting married any time soon. Etc But back to you. We don’t know your situation. Have you spoken at all about marriage. Or kids. Or a time line or the desire to get married. What you require. Where is your partner in life. Are you both in the same place. And I don’t mean location. That you both want the same thing. Does he have his life together.  Financially. Emotionally. Healed from trauma. Over his ex. Babymama drama. Etc. Have you asked him, What’s his 5 year or 10 year plan and does he mention you when he talks about it. Or only talk about himself and his goals. Goals. Values. How you raise kids discipline them. Religion. In-laws and how involved in your lives they are allowed to be. Debt. Credit. Spending habits. Or is this the only issue.

How long to wait for the ring ??

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