Married couples, how often do you have sex?

I am 29F and my husband is 33M, turning 34 in August. We have been married for almost 5 years and together for 7. He only ever wants to have sex once every three months, and that’s with me have to push for it, plan ahead days in advance then reschedule because once the time comes he doesn’t feel like it. He has ED but he has pills he orders online that work, and he refuses see a doctor to get hormones tested. I am starting to become extremely depressed. Even when we have sex it’s depressing because I know it will be another three months. It feels awkward like I’m having sex with a roommate in a sort of way. I don’t receive any oral, and there is not much passion. It feels like he’s doing it to shut me up. He gets up to go play video games right after. We don’t kiss or cuddle between sex times either, he just plays video games 24/7 every moment he is home until 2am. So it’s not like we have other forms of physical intimacy in those three months When I ask him why he doesn’t want sex he just says he’s not that kind of guy. I desperately want a family and multiple children, he says it will happen when it happens but I did the math and if fertility goes down at 35 we have maybe 20 times left to have sex to conceive all our children. Also do to his ED he has retrograde ejaculation about 25% of the time or a bit more which means semen is sent into the bladder and does not come out even though their is an orgasam, and I know that will make it harder. Due to me having to always reschedule not once in our marriage have we had sex in the 48 hour ovulation period, it’s always rushed to the day before or after my period just to day he did it before month 4 starts. I don’t feel this is normal. Is this classified as a sexless marriage? I am extremely desperate for physical intimacy and have sometimes caught myself fantasizing about other men or just anything for passion. I just wanna make out and have hot sex not a feel like a robotic chore he’s checking off a list. Those who are married with no kids yet how often do you have sex? I also want to clarify I know for 100% he is not cheating. He is a good man and I know he loves me. He just really has no interest in sex because I guess it’s to much work (even though I’m on top most of the time) and he rather just play video games with his friends. It’s been like this our entire marriage