Worried about my sister's pregnancy

My sister is 40 and wanted 1 more baby. She had a miscarriage and a D&C and got pregnant 3 weeks after that. She just had her 1st ultrasound at 6 weeks and she is pregnant with identical twins. The miscarriage almost destroyed her and now at her age with the quick pregnancy turn around I am worried something is gonna go wrong and it will be worse this time. I've had 2 miscarriages and my OB stressed waiting a full month minimum but preferably 2 or 3 to try to get pregnant again since there can be more complications getting pregnant too soo after a miscarriage...especially after a D&C which I had 1 also. Identical twins already are riskier then adding her age and how fast she got pregnant I am scared. I am supporting her and keeping my my fears to myself but shes my best friend and her kids are like my own and the miscarriage broke her kids hearts and near broke her. I'm hoping the best but have a gut feeling something is off and I hope I'm wrong. Edit: her D&C was 4/4 snd they have her conception date at 4/22. When I had my D&C they wanted me to wait min of 6 weeks to try again because it increases the miscarriage chance if the lining doesn't have time to fully heal and rebuild. Thats my worry is it is so close between procedure and conception.

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Al

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There’s no need to worry about this at this time. She can’t go back and do it differently. So far things are going smoothly. There’s no point in dwelling on something that hasn’t happened yet. I’m sure she is well aware of the risks. She will be under the care of a high risk doctor no matter what.Be supportive. Encourage rest. Help her with day to day things as much as you can (send freezer meals when you can, help babysit or hang at her house with her children, be listening ear).

S

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Just be there for her. She is likely well aware of the risks and is probably very scared to have another loss. It’s hard watching a loved one suffer through heartbreak. All we can do is be supportive. Stay positive for her.

An

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I had a miscarriage before before my son and a d&c done. My d&c happened in January 22 found out I was pregnant again in March 22. I only had one period before I got pregnant. My son is happy and healthy. I had a miscarriage and passed in naturally right before Easter this year and got pregnant the following month. So far this pregnancy the baby is healthy.

St

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I hope everything is ok. I also had a D&C for a missed miscarriage. I was told to wait until my blood tests came back negative for pregnancy hormone and at least 6 weeks if I tested non pregnant before that. Hopefully everything goes well but ya my doctor said it increases risk if you conceive too soon. Increased risk doesn't mean guaranteed issue though so maybe she'll have a smooth however long they let her carry as she will deliver sooner than 40 wks. Good luck to her