My son called me a manipulator and is trying to spite the whole family

I'm the one who wrote this post

I tried to see what I could do to get out of this loan and it seems my only option is for my son to refinance his loan. I called my 27 year old and he's still mad about the wedding so he had an attitude. When I brought up everything he hung up on me. I guess I kind of snapped because I sent him a text saying all I've done is tried to be a good mom to him and his brother and all he's done is use me, steal from us, and treat us badly. I told him if he cares anything about my financial situation or me at all as his mother to for once in his life do something right. He texted me back calling me a bitch and a manipulator. Then to just he spiteful he went on Facebook talking about us. Saying he's tired of dealing with bitter broke family. He called me broke and to just he nasty and spiteful put his 18 year old brothers business out there because like I said, he stopped playing football and went to being the manager because of his mental health and my 27 year old put all over Facebook the reason his brothers mental health was so bad and put all business out there just to be nasty and spiteful. I am lost. I love my kids. He's my son. My child that I carried for 9 months and I feel like a parent should always be there for their child but I also know my son for lack of better words is an asshole and making our lives harder