So I met a guy on a dating app, we're just chatting for now, we have been for a couple of weeks now, because I don't want to jump into things and so far he's been saying a lot of good things, a lot of green flags, a lot of common interests, a few things that made me question, but not too major and I wanted to discuss if we'd meet. He said he's ready to settle, but as far as I've seen, I don't think he's actually mature enough. He claims that he's very respectful and values the people and is very positive..

Now yesterday I had a wedding and I showed him my outfit and His only response was:

Damn.. you have huge tits...

And I responded with:

That was very... Respectful? 🤔😬

he responded with:

I mean it as a compliment for sure

and I responded with:

Nah that was really inappropriate.

and he ignored me and this morning sent me a random snap from his view, like the actual view from his window.

I decided to not respond until he apologizes or takes some accountability. though I think I'm really over it with this guy

I'm not overreacting, am I ?

@Molly

You're absolutely right. I ended up communicating for a third time almost 24h later that that really wasn't ok, because he started sending other stuff and I guessed he really didn't understand? and he had a kind of "jeezes you still on that, Well I guess I apologize then, but you're overreacting" kind of response.. so yeah that's not accountability.

A few hours after he told me that *I* wasn't ready to move on because we haven't met yet and he's giving me a time limit. (aparantly most girls meet within the week?) While before I had told him I want to take things slow and I need the time and I want to meet him but I need to meet with my friend first so she knows what I'll be up to - just to be safe about it. He had been understanding and said "we have all the time in the world" but something changed and he just concluded that it took too long for him.

So yeah.. too many red flags there.